Freedom of Choice

[MajestyJo]

Ironically, I found out that he was not honest at all and was telling me what he thought I wanted to hear and what I wanted him to say, and or what would make him look good.

He got very angry because I said, "I didn't need him in my life, he was there because I wanted him there." He blew his top and blamed me for causing me to trigger his anger. He thought that I should need him, yet two needy people together, does not make for a healthy relationship. When I get needy, I get greedy and want more. He relapsed at 7 years sober. He stopped doing service and going to CA and went to the church. I was so grateful when I heard he had come back to AA.

He was trying to make space in my space, instead of working on his own recovery. I think he felt as though if he stayed with me, my recovery would rub off on him. This is not a copy cat program, we each have to choose our own way. It is freedom of choice. There was nothing wrong with going to church as long as he continued to practice the spirituals of the program in his life. It isn't a program of substitution, it is what is good for the whole, and looking at all aspects of my dis-ease.