We hear it said that we must change everything about ourselves for us to be able to stay in recovery. What this really means is our focus should no longer be on ourselves as it has been for too long, and also for us to allow for things to happen naturally, instead of us getting in there trying to make everything happen our way. What we get from doing these two things is that the spiritual side of us that we have ignored for too long starts to be able to run the show, and when this happens we see that we're better off because of this, much better than anything we could have ever come up with by using our self will or by us being self centered. A spiritual life is not a theory to those of us in recovery, it's the way we are taught to live by.