The hardest thing to understand when I was new to recovery is that everybody I was meeting in recovery had to do exactly what I was being told I needed to do. I felt sure that this must have been way easier for them, or that they didn't even have to do this stuff at all, that they were just telling me to do it because they thought I needed it. I was so skeptical even of those who were wanting to help me. I kept thinking there must be something in it for them. We can only cheer each other on. No one can make us do anything in recovery. It doesn't work that way. We have got to want it, if we don't it doesn't work. No one can make us want it, we have to decide that for ourselves. When I started to see I wasn't any different from those who were trying to help me is when I realized they must have had to do these things themselves, and it must have worked for them. That's when I became interested in doing what I was being told to do. I thought maybe if it worked for them it might work for me too.