When we're new to recovery we all want answers to why we have this problem, and what we did we do to deserve this. Unfortunately or fortunately as the case may be, recovery is not about trying to find out these answers to which we might not ever be able to understand anyways. Recovery solves our problem for us without us having to know why we have it, in a way that is quite ingenuous. It is a set of actions we all can take, that are counter measures to the same troubles that all of us were having from having this problem and without even trying to come up the answer to why we have this problem. And what good would it do us anyways in knowing why we have it? We'd still have to do something about having it, and that's not going to be found in knowing the answer to why we have it. What's key for us to be able to find some kind of way we can learn to live with this problem, and begins for all of us when we accept we do have this problem, and then take the actions found in recovery that are necessary as counter measures to offset the troubles that we're all getting from having it. When we do this we solve our problem without having an understanding of why we have it, and as it turns out that is more important than knowing why we do have it.