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bluidkiti · 09-03-2013, 09:34 AM

Step 4- Inventory Relationships (including Sex) (64-65)
Fill in Second and Third Columns
Make multiple copies or expand these templates into your own notebook.

1, First Column: Who? “Who did I hurt?”
Inventory one name at a time.
2. Second column: How? “How did I hurt them?”
We reviewed our own conduct…. (69: 1) We list all the ways we have hurt others by our conduct. This includes how we hurt someone by having or not having sex with them, or by having sex with someone other than them, or by not being present with them and for them when we are lost in fantasies, etc. We write just in this second column for now.
3. Third Column: What? “What part of self affected?”
What part of my ‘self,’ which of my roles, led to my conduct?: Our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions…our security…our personal or sex relations...,[etc.] (64: 3-65: 0,1) We were most often seeking something more than simply sex.

First Column: Who?
Name: Who I hurt.
Second Column: How?
Cause: How I hurt them.
Third Column: What?
What part of myself led me to do what I did.

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p. 62
http://www.stepsbybigbook.net/

09-03-2013, 09:34 AM	#17
bluidkiti Administrator Join Date: Aug 2013 Posts: 70,752	Step 4- Inventory Relationships (including Sex) (64-65) Fill in Second and Third Columns Make multiple copies or expand these templates into your own notebook. 1, First Column: Who? “Who did I hurt?” Inventory one name at a time. 2. Second column: How? “How did I hurt them?” We reviewed our own conduct…. (69: 1) We list all the ways we have hurt others by our conduct. This includes how we hurt someone by having or not having sex with them, or by having sex with someone other than them, or by not being present with them and for them when we are lost in fantasies, etc. We write just in this second column for now. 3. Third Column: What? “What part of self affected?” What part of my ‘self,’ which of my roles, led to my conduct?: Our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions…our security…our personal or sex relations...,[etc.] (64: 3-65: 0,1) We were most often seeking something more than simply sex. First Column: Who? Name: Who I hurt. Second Column: How? Cause: How I hurt them. Third Column: What? What part of myself led me to do what I did. … p. 62 http://www.stepsbybigbook.net/ __________________ "No matter what you have done up to this moment, you get 24 brand-new hours to spend every single day." --Brian Tracy AA gives us an opportunity to recreate ourselves, with God's help, one day at a time. --Rufus K. When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. --Franklin D. Roosevelt We stay sober and clean together - one day at a time! God says that each of us is worth loving.

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