Quote:
“Think for yourself and let others have the privilege of
doing so too.” From: Courage to Change
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The thing I find the most rewarding about detachment, it doesn't mean I no longer love my addict, I do it because I do love him. He makes his choices. He is the one who told me, You are looking at the disease not me Mom. I am reminded that it is the detachment from the disease not the person behind it. I don't enable. I set boundaries. Often, have to reset and re-affirm them.
Detachment for me is living my life and using the slogan, Live and Let Live. The key word is living my life and not living my life through the addict. Not putting my life on hold waiting for them to come to a decision to help themselves.